He probably has some major guilt issues. I have a friend who's response to feeling guilt was to get angry and deny the vailidity of any guilt or shame that felt. Which, come to think of it, probably made him feel more guilt. But even imagining what might be the cause of his views doesn't help.
One of my favorite songs currently (that wasn't on my list) is by a Boston Band called Jim's Big Ego (their record label has a contract where they won't sue you for distributing their music if you are just sharing and not selling it). The song is called "Asshole" and it goes like this:
"I've been bashed and battered,
I've been bruised and beaten,
I've been abused, misused
and I've been mistreated
I've been up and down
and still I feel
your an asshole.
I looked at from your side
and I've looked at it from mine
and I know you had a hard time
when you were only nine,
but that was long ago
and now there's just no denying
that you're an asshole."
Heheh, it doesn't help knowing why someone is the way they are if they happen to be a jerk whose not going to change...
Instead of an AP program, my High School had the International Baccalaureate program. So my senior year we read a lot of contemporary international fiction. We also read Isabel Allende's House of the Spirits
, and the English course was a combination of a regular U.S. High School class (reading stuff like Jane Eyre, 1984, etc.) a modern world lit class, and an intro to philosophy class (which they called Theory of Knowledge, we read stuff like The Tao of Poo
I was lucky enough to have a really progressive primary and secondary education through our public school system at the time, which unfortunately was in decline. Due to restrictive ballot measures created by a conservative ass who redistributed money from the schools into tax breaks, Oregon public schools went from being #2
in the States to somewhere in the low 40s.
Well, Hegel's writing on Lordship and Bondage is pretty much the foundation of the S and M dynamic. And in it Hegel defines the submission given by the bondsman to the lord as the real power in the relationship. Hegel was writing about it in a philosophical context that described feudal structure, slavery and mastery, from the perspective that humans are inherently equal, and the uneven exchange of power is created through a partnership, a mutual understanding between Lord and Bondsman that is reinforced with every exchange, but is ultimately arbitrary.
In S and M relationships the exchange of power is explicit, though. How did this guy manage to adopt a perspective, in this modern world, where he saw women as being sub-human?